Happy birthday to myself! Yes, today I turned 28 and I’m here to share with you some realizations I had before I turned 28. It wasn’t easy coming up with things I think I learned, and I was planning on 28 and failed, obviously haha! So here it goes:
Love myself more.
I always tell my friends that in order for them to love someone to the fullest; they must learn to love themselves first. I learned this as I grew because it’s true that we should learn to appreciate who we are first before sharing the love we have for another person.
Learn to say no.
I’m not good at saying no. I always give favors to other people that sometimes they take me for granted. My dad told me everything should be a give and take process. I shouldn’t be always on the giving end, and that I should learn to recognize when my kindness is being abused.
Go after the things I want and love.
I wasn’t the most patient person out there, but I learned to be good at waiting while I was in college. I’ve always believed in waiting for things to come to me, for the right person, for chances. But now, I am done waiting. I learned that it’s time I make a move for myself because chances are running out and the person I love might not be there anymore if I continue on waiting.
Love, be hurt, and learn to let go.
2016-2017 was a rough year for me. I waited, loved, and got hurt. I was let down by a person I thought was the one. But after all these things, I learned how to let go. I learned that people and things come and go. There are things that are meant to stay and if they want to, they will stay. It wasn’t easy, but I felt better after forgiving and letting go. I am okay now, and happy, but what happened to me will remain as a learning experience and a reminder to treasure the things I have now.
Don’t stop believing.
People and/or things will hurt you and disappoint you, but never stop believing and trusting. There’s always goodness in people we meet, and things we discover. Don’t assume the worst in everything, and hope that goodness will prevail. If it hurts you, then learn, if it doesn’t then treasure it.
Have courage, be kind.
Taken from the 2015 movie Cinderella, this quote never left my mind after watching. It stayed with me and taught me that kindness shouldn’t get in the way of pursuing things for myself. That kindness is not an excuse for letting other people step over me. I learned that I should be brave to stand for myself when needed.
Discover and be surprised.
Sometimes the things we don’t expect to like are the things that could surprise us. I was bad at joining clubs and college orgs. I was so shy that I’m bad at introducing myself at other people. But this year I decided to join a new choir and now they are like the younger siblings I never had.
Be the version of yourself you would befriend.
I had very low self esteem because I grew up a chubby kid. But after college, I learned that my weight has nothing to do with the number of my friends, my achievements, and my talents. I can sing in front of an audience. I can play the piano, and conduct a choir. My friends love me because I’m crazy and happy and loyal, and I achieved all of these while growing up as a chubby kid. I realized my outer appearance doesn’t define who I am now, a bubbly, sometimes crazy kind of person. Be you, be the version of yourself you would be friends with.
I know that as I mature? there would still be a lot of things to learn and discover. I am ready, excited and I can’t wait for what life has in store for me. So go ahead and bring it on life, because this 28-year old lady is not going anywhere.
P.S. Happy birthday to all December babies!